0224 SJM Feature - Dakota Johnson - FINAL_Pages 2 / 22 / 24 1 : 13 PM Page 4 mother , instilled in me the value of I take things one step at a time , which Then it gets even more intense : finding happiness within myself . helpsme stay calm about decisions and ‘ When will we get married ? Hello ? Are They’ve encouraged me to savor this whathappens . They taught me to not youthere ? ’ And then it becomes too special phase before marriage and par - getcaught up in the hype and stay calm . overwhelming , ‘ I can’t handle this any - enthood , emphasizing the unique I grew up understanding what more , ’ and maybe even adds a middle importance it has in life’s journey . actors go through because of stories fingeremoji as the final message While all that does sound pretty deep andpaparazzi . I remember going out [ laughs ] . and profound , it was so nice to hear those withmy parents and sometimes it both - kind words of support , because the older eredme when people kept coming to Is that your go - to emoji ? I’ve gotten , the more I feel like I have to ourtable for autographs , although I was Thankgoodness they added that one prove something to people . more upset about it than they were ! [ laughs ] . That’s all for me and it hap - pens pretty quickly , maybe in just five What fascinated you about the movie Do you feel there’s a pressure on minutesor less . business when you were growing up people and , in turn , on yourself , to Theway people meet these days is around it so much ? couple up , settle down ? Does society still pretty weird to me . I don’t like it ; it This is the world I grew up in . I always look down its nose at single people ? makesme uncomfortable . I find it enjoyed being on a film set when I was a Throughouthistory , society has creepy.I’m not really into social media kid , and I knew I wanted to act for my expectedwomen — more than men — to likeTwitter or Facebook . I do have an whole life . I never really made a deci - marryand have kids . This pressure has Instagram , but I don’t use it much and I sion to become an actress ; it’s just alwaysbeen there . If women don’t rarelycheck it . something I always knew . followthis traditional path , they can I have a more traditional and For me , it was like a playground facecriticism . romanticview . I believe men should be where I could use my imagination . Inmy life , I’ve realized that making politeand sometimes pay for things ! When my dad worked on Nash Bridges , choicesabout relationships is a lot like Someday , I’d like to settle down and I spent a lot of time on the San makingcareer decisions . It’s all about have a family . I don’t necessarily think Francisco set and I loved it . A film set listeningto your heart and doing what thattwo people have to stay together feels like home to me , where I belong feels right . forever . If that happens , it’s special , but and feel most at ease . even if a marriage doesn’t last , it can still While that is really nice and lovely , is it bebeautiful . Do you still ask your parents for entirely realistic ? Peoplechange over time , and some - advice ? I just think that it’s a very natural way of timesthey go in different directions . It’s I’m my own person now . What I had was thinking , and sometimes we’re too possibleto love more than one person a beginning . When you follow in your influencedby societal norms and inyour life . The most important thing is parents ’ footsteps , it’s natural to worry expectations.But what’s the alternative ? tobe honest . about making your own name in the It’s like the part of me that says , ‘ I industry . Even today , I’m always loveyou , ’ and that’s it . But then it keeps Do you think that fame has changed searching for roles where I’m judged wondering , ‘ Why haven’t you replied ? how you live your life in any way ? solely on my acting , not anything else . Doyou love me too ? Are you coming No , not really . I mostly do the same My parents have supported me , but over ? ’ stuff . I spend a lot of time at home , and sometimes I worry a lot about people taking my picture . I’m actually very normal , though I A SCENE FROM MADAME WEB don’tfeel the pressure to prove that in any way . Certainly something I did learn during my childhood was the fact people will always view you in a way they want to view you , when you’re in the public eye . My parents suffered that , to an extent , though with the internet today it’s much more prevalent . Back then it would mostly be gossip in news - papers . Ultimately , if someone decides they really like you then you can do quite a lot and they will still like you . And the opposite it true — when you are disliked people will always try to find fault in you . And that’s not just a celebrity thing — I think it’s human nature . We build ideas and opinions of one another based on information and experience , and sometimes it can be difficult to n changethat into something else . S O U T H J E R S E Y M A G A Z I N E | V O L U M E 2 0 • I S S U E 1 1 | S O U T H J E R S E Y M A G A Z I N E . C O M | 2 9